“The most terrible poverty is loneliness, and the feeling of being unloved.” ― Mother Teresa
About Adrian Allotey
I am currently living my best life, by providing service to elders and their loved ones. My life’s calling came as a result of being present during my 106 year old loving Grandmother’s journey. Although I loved her dearly, I often felt troubled that I couldn’t be there for her like I had wanted. Life got in the way; being a wife, a mother, and having a successful career. She was pretty healthy, but she lacked companionship. I knew there were things that could improve the quality of her life such as long talks, sharing stories, cooked meals, and transportation to the doctors, stores and church. I did my best, but there simply wasn’t enough time in the day to show up like I felt she deserved. Her passing made my life’s purpose clear; service to elders and their loved ones.
I made it my life’s mission to promote the final years as a sacred, beautiful, honorable stage of life. I became a hospice volunteer and a certified end-of-life doula, a person who assists in the dying process, much like a birth doula does with the birthing process. Working with elderly patients has been life affirming so much so that I left a career of 20+ years.
Along with my team, we serve as non-medical elderly companions who specialize in physical, emotional and spiritual care. We meet our clients on their terms, see them as whole, and build relationships with them and their loved ones. Our self-care regimen, personal growth and intuition allow us to mindfully hold space and provide comfort for elderly people and their family in a non-judgmental, loving manner. Our motto “heart to heart” is evident in the holistic elder companionship we provide.
Holding this space decreases the stress and fears family members face, when trying to care for their loved ones. We will be there whether they are in need of respite relief, work long hours or live long distance. We can help. Through extensive end-of-life doula training, we are able to provide support, education, and suggestions for comfort. We have a toolkit of available resources to ease the anxious person and their family members including virtual “elder cams,” essential oils, crystals, reiki, mindfulness practices, etc. We are often referred to as “angels”, “Godsends”, “extraordinary”, “beyond belief” and words of the like. Contact us TODAY to see how we can be of assistance to you TOMORROW and we promise to assist in enhancing the life of your loved elder.
National End-of-Life Doula Alliance
Hospice and Palliative Nurses Association
End of Life Practitioners Collective
National Home Funeral Alliance
NJ Health Care Network
Doulagivers End of Life Doula Practitioners Training
Reiki Level 2
Being with the Dying: Compassionate Care of the Dying with Frank Ostaseski and Roshi Joan Halifax
17th Annual Statewide Conference for Hospice Volunteers: Volunteers Honoring Veterans, Volunteering at the 11th Hour, Tell Me Your Story – the Importance of Narrative Work in Hospice Care
HealthCare Chaplaincy Network: The National Consensus Project (NCP) Clinical Practice Guidelines for The National Consensus Project (NCP) Clinical Practice Guidelines for Quality Palliative Care, Fourth Edition: Summary, Synthesis, and Integration into Chaplaincy Programs and Practices
Reimagine End of Life: Death and Dying in the Asian Community, Listening Closely – What Mortals Can Teach Us About Living, Author Talk: Forever Letter, Dyalogues & Wishes: Relief Comes From Knowing Answers to Questions We Never Ask, What the Dying Teach the Living, No Loose Ends: Preparation for End of Life, Ten Ways to Help the Parents of a Seriously Ill Child, Practicing for Life and for Death: Worship Service, Conversation I Wish I Had
“Until Your Last Breath” Retreat facilitated by Patty Burgess and Sheila Schultz
Rules for Touching the Dying Facilitated by Elizabeth Erbrecht
NHPCO – various trainings provided by the National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization
The Alzheimer’s Association of Greater NJ Chapter – various trainings to support those living with Alzheimer’s and all other dementia
CCNJ – various trainings provided by the Caring Connections of New Jersey Healthcare Group
Ascend Hospice Reiki Practitioner and End of Life Doula
Haven Hospice Reiki Practitioner
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Chicken Pox Immunity
Annual Flu Vaccine