About Us
About Adrian Allotey
I am currently living my best life, by providing service to elders and their loved ones. My life’s calling came as a result of being present during my 106 year old loving Grandmother’s journey. Although I loved her dearly, I often felt troubled that I couldn’t be there for her like I had wanted. Life got in the way; being a wife, a mother, and having a successful career. She was pretty healthy, but she lacked companionship. I knew there were things that could improve the quality of her life such as long talks, sharing stories, cooked meals, and transportation to the doctors, stores and church. I did my best, but there simply wasn’t enough time in the day to show up like I felt she deserved. Her passing made my life’s purpose clear; service to elders and their loved ones.
I made it my life’s mission to promote the final years as a sacred, beautiful, honorable stage of life. I became a hospice volunteer and a certified end-of-life doula, a person who assists in the dying process, much like a birth doula does with the birthing process. Working with elderly patients has been life affirming so much so that I left a career of 20+ years.
Along with my team, we serve as non-medical elderly companions who specialize in physical, emotional and spiritual care. We meet our clients on their terms, see them as whole, and build relationships with them and their loved ones. Our self-care regimen, personal growth and intuition allow us to mindfully hold space and provide comfort for elderly people and their family in a non-judgmental, loving manner. Our motto “heart to heart” is evident in the holistic elder companionship we provide.
Holding this space decreases the stress and fears family members face, when trying to care for their loved ones. We will be there whether they are in need of respite relief, work long hours or live long distance. We can help. Through extensive end-of-life doula training, we are able to provide support, education, and suggestions for comfort. We have a toolkit of available resources to ease the anxious person and their family members including virtual “elder cams,” essential oils, crystals, reiki, mindfulness practices, etc. We are often referred to as “angels”, “Godsends”, “extraordinary”, “beyond belief” and words of the like. Contact us TODAY to see how we can be of assistance to you TOMORROW and we promise to assist in enhancing the life of your loved elder.
Memberships
National End-of-Life Doula Alliance
Doulagivers
Hospice and Palliative Nurses Association
End of Life Collective – RoundGlass Collective
National Home Funeral Alliance
NJ Health Care Network
AARP
Certifications
Doulagivers End of Life Doula Practitioners Training
Ascend End of Life Doula Training with Deanna Cochran, RN
Doulagivers Elder Care Training
Doulagivers Care Consultant Training
Reiki Level 2
Trainings
Being with the Dying with Frank Ostaseski and Roshi Joan Halifax: various trainings to support compassionate care of the dying
Annual Statewide Conferences for Hospice Volunteers: various trainings to support the hospice model of care
HealthCare Chaplaincy Network: various trainings to support the integration of spiritual care in health care to help people find comfort and meaning – whoever they are, whatever they believe, wherever they are
Compassion & Choices: various trainings to support people to choose and prepare for end-of-life care that reflects their values, priorities, and beliefs
Reimagine End of Life: various trainings to explore death and celebrate life
“Until Your Last Breath” Retreat facilitated by Patty Burgess and Sheila Schultz
Rules for Touching the Dying Facilitated by Elizabeth Erbrecht
National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization (NHPCO): various trainings to support person-centered model of healthcare that provides patients and their loved ones with comfort, peace, and dignity
The Alzheimer’s Association of Greater NJ Chapter: various trainings to support those living with Alzheimer’s and all other dementia
Caring Connections of New Jersey Healthcare Group: various trainings to support the aging population
Volunteer Experience
Ascend Hospice Reiki Practitioner and End of Life Doula
Haven Hospice Reiki Practitioner
Speaking Engagements
Death Doula Global Summit
Day of the Dead/Día de los Muertos: Talking about Death is a Part of Life/Talking about Death is a Part of Life, Poudre River Public Library, Colorado
“What is an End of Life Doula?” and “The Sandwich Caregiver”: Mocha Moms Inc. and other National Organizations
“Live Your Best Life Now”: Local Municipalities, Government Agencies, Senior Centers and Aging Establishments
Patient Safety
Fully Insured
Criminal Background
Check DMV Background Check as applicable
Elder Cams
TB Screening
Rubella Immunity
Measles Immunity
Mumps Immunity
Chicken Pox Immunity
Annual Flu Vaccine