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End of Life Code of Ethics

As a certified End of Life Doula trained by the Suzanne B. O’Brien’s Doulagivers, we promise to practice our profession with integrity, honesty, and truthfulness and to safely care for our patients and their loved ones. This includes but is not limited to no prejudice or judgment, respecting others' opinions, working to the best of our ability, and meeting our patients and their families “where they are” in their process. We will always put the patient's best interest first in all situations.

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Terminal diagnosis

Oct 21, 2019

Terminal diagnosis

When facing a terminal diagnosis, everything can seem like it is slipping away, and that is when you need the most support in your life. For this reason, you might want to consider looking into getting a death doula to help you through this difficult time. The Support You Need If you or someone you know has recently received a terminal diagnosis, coming to terms with this and learning how to cope might seem overwhelming and undoable. It is important to remember that you are not alone, and there are people who can help you by providing support and guidance about what you can do to get through this difficult time. Losing someone is never easy, and being told that you are dying is something that none of us expect to go through, so having support can make all the difference. Informative And Helpful Providing you with all of the information that you need is what we are here for. If there is anything that you want to know about end of life or even ways that you can cope with a terminal diagnosis, we are a phone call away to assist with answers, suggestions for comfort, and most importantly support. Ensuring that you not only feel prepared but are prepared is the main goal of end of life care, and keeping you comfortable throughout your final hours, days, months and years on Earth is our priority. We hope that you have found this article helpful, and now know a little more about terminal diagnosis services that are available to you. Get in touch with us today! We have presences all across New Jersey in Colonia, Somerset, Metuchen, Edison, Rahway, East Brunswick, East Hanover, Westfield, Woodbridge, Sayreville, Berkeley Heights, and Cherry Hill. ...

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Energy Work For Seniors

Sep 10, 2019

Energy Work For Seniors

The term “energy work” has become something of a buzzword in the wellness community. The basic idea is to help align a person’s life forces in a way that makes them feel more energized while cutting their risk of disease and the effects of such. The practice stems from the longstanding Reiki tradition - a therapy that practitioners have been using for thousands of years to restore balance in the body. Energy work for seniors combines traditional ideas of wellness with practical solutions, helping to improve the quality of life for our older loved ones. What Is Energy Work For Seniors? Energy work for seniors revolves around the concept of Reiki. Reiki practitioners believe that there is a universal life force that permeates all living beings throughout the universe. Lifestyle and conscious decisions that people make can block this energy from penetrating the body, which can lead to disease. At the core of this belief is the concept that the body wants to heal itself, just as naturally as the lungs want to breathe or the heart beat. When the body is cut off from the life-giving force, however, it falls into a disease state. Energy work for seniors involves using tools to re-establish the body’s connection with the life force and enable it to recover. How Do Elder Helpers Help People Who May Be Suffering? Practitioners use a variety of techniques to help seniors balance energy in their bodies. The method relies on an understanding of the body’s energy centers. If there’s a disruption in one of them, it can lead to imbalances in both body and mind. Practitioners will often place their hands on the energy centers throughout the body to balance the body’s energy systems (or chakras as they’re sometimes called). By performing these actions in the right combination, a skilled therapist can restore energy balance to the body and help people overcome some of the conditions of aging. ...

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What led you to become a death doula?

Aug 26, 2019

What led you to become a death doula?

When asked the following question, Adrian Allotey, Owner of You Are Not Alone Elder Care LLC and Certified End of Life Doula, responded as such. Q: What led you to become a death doula? A: I am a spiritual person by nature and death is a spiritual experience. For years, I denied my supernatural gifts. As an energy worker/healer and a level 2 reiki practitioner who is knowledgeable about essential oils and crystals amongst other alternative modalities, I came into myself and found that the death arena was the place for me to share my gifts with the world. It all began with me volunteering for a hospice who understood how these gifts and skills could make a difference in the final moments, days, weeks and months of a person’s life. I decided to become a death doula and became certified as such. It was the right decision for me. ...

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What is a death doula or midwife?

Aug 26, 2019

What is a death doula or midwife?

When asked the following question, Adrian Allotey, Owner of You Are Not Alone Elder Care LLC and Certified End of Life Doula, responded as such. Q: What is a death doula or midwife? A: “Doula” is a Greek word that means non-medical person that gives physical, emotional and spiritual support to someone else. An End-of-life Doula is a non-medical professional that provides holistic support for the dying and their loved ones before, during, and after death. Trained in the various end of life stages a Doula is able to assist the family with understanding the natural processes while providing comfort and support. ...

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About You Are Not Alone

About Adrian Allotey, Owner, Certified End-of-Life Doula I am currently living my best life by responding to a calling on my life; service to elders and their loved ones. My life’s calling came as a result of being present in my 106 year old, loving grandmother’s journey until her last breath. Although I loved her dearly, I often felt troubled that I couldn’t be there for her like I wanted. Life got in the way; being a wife and mother and having a successful career. She was pretty healthy, but she lacked companionship. I knew there were things that could improve the quality of her life such as long talks, sharing stories, cooked meals, and transportation to the doctors, stores and church. I did my best, but there simply wasn’t enough time in the day to show up like I felt she deserved. Her passing gave my life’s purpose clear; service to elders and their loved ones. I made it my life’s mission to promote the final years as a sacred, beautiful, honorable stage of life. I became a hospice volunteer and a certified end-of-life doula, a person who assists in the dying process, much like a birth doula does with the birthing process. Working with elderly patients has been life affirming so much so that I left a career of 20+ years. Along with my team, we serve as non-medical elderly companions who specialize in physical, emotional and spiritual care. We meet our clients on their terms, see them as whole, and build relationships with them and their loved ones. Our self-care regimen, personal growth and intuition allow us to mindfully hold space and provide comfort for elderly people and their family in a non-judgmental, loving manner. Our motto “heart to heart" is evident in the holistic elder companionship we provide. Holding this space decreases the stress and fears family members face when looking for care for their loved ones; whether they are in need of respite relief, work long hours or live long distance. We can help. Through extensive end-of-life doula training, we are able to provide support, education, and suggestions for comfort. We have a toolkit of available resources to ease the anxious person and their family members including virtual “elder cams,” essential oils, crystals, reiki, mindfulness practices, etc. We are often referred to as “angels”, “Godsends”, “extraordinary”, “beyond belief” and words of the like. Contact us TODAY to see how we can be of assistance to you TOMORROW and we promise to assist in enhancing the life of your loved elder. MEMBERSHIPS National End-of-Life Doula Alliance Doulagivers National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization End of Life Practitioners Collective National Home Funeral Alliance CERTIFICATIONS Doulagivers End of Life Doula Practitioners Training Reiki Level 2 VOLUNTEER EXPERIENCE Ascend Hospice Reiki Practitioner and End of Life Doula Haven Hospice Reiki Practitioner


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