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Acquinetta L.

The quality of elderly care that Adrian provides for my dad is exceptional. I believe that some people work because it is just a job, while others work out of their passion. Adrian works out of her passion to care for and be present with my dad. My husband and I are my father's primary caregiver. My father had three strokes two years ago and requires a lot of day-to-day care to ensure that he has a good quality of life. Lately, my husband and I began to feel overwhelmed with taking so many days off of work to take my dad to his doctors' appointments or therapy sessions, so we had to find a better way of balancing our lives. When my husband and I interviewed Adrian, there was such an immediate connection. She was professional but most importantly she connected with my dad. She has a natural ability to engage with and understand my dad's felt needs. What I love about the service she provides is her interest in getting to know my dad, not just from a caregiver-to-patient relationship, but her interests lie in something far greater which is understanding my dad as a person and not a client. When she understood that my dad loves gospel songs or likes to eat ice cream or his love for his deceased wife, she was able to tap into that part of him that brings joy by engaging in his areas of interest. This was key to where my dad feels so comfortable in her presence; it is because Adrian works out of her passion. Personally, Adrian has become an extension of me when caring for my dad because she has his best interest at heart. Actually, she is like one of the family. Therefore, I recommend Adrian to anyone who is looking for "exceptional" care for their elderly loved one.

Kate F

Adrian came into our lives when we really needed help caring for our mother who was dying of cancer and at home on hospice. Not only did she help us with home health care she is knowledgeable about the death process and was reassuring to us throughout. She came over right away and got started offering us assistance. She is generous, kind and caring and really knew what to do to help the difficult situation be less stressful. Her co-workers are also caring and knowledgeable and we appreciated the help they also offered. Adrian made a truly traumatic experience manageable for my mom and for us too. Thank you Adrian.

Diane P.

Adrian has been a life savor to my parents as well as to my brothers and sisters. Her kindness and compassion are outstanding, she has such a gentle soul and looks after my parents like a member of our family. She is respectful of their privacy and we trust her with caring for our parents. We couldn't survive without her !!!

Christine P.

Adrian has been a blessing for my family. Her concern and warmth are a light of joy for my developmentally disabled sister who talks about Adrian's visits for days! We are so grateful for Adrian and cannot say enough good things about this very special person!

Tanya Z

Adrian is a very special person and the quality of care she provides her clients is excellent. I highly recommend her, her team and the service she provides.

Tanya

Adrian and her team are amazing! I highly recommend her. She was invaluable in assisting us with care for my father while he was ill. If I could give her a million stars on this review I would!

Judith

It is a peace of mind when you hire a company that cares for your loved one as their own. YANAEC and their team love my 81 year old aunt and are sympathetic in her care especially that she is suffering Alzheimers. I would recommend them in a heartbeat.

Rae

Adrian is a blessing to my family. The minute I read her bio, I knew she would be a great fit. She is kind, compassionate, positive, and has become a friend to my mom, dad, and Aunt Patty. Whenever my parents need assistance, Adrian is there and ready to help. We are thrilled to have her! My parents never have to worry. Having Adrian in their lives gives them and myself a great sense of confidence and comfort. Can't ask for much more than that!

Rachel

Adrian is so passionate about what she does as a caregiver! My sister and I knew from our first conversation with her that she would be just like another member of our family - someone who would engage our loved one the same way that we do and be a comforting, familiar presence right from the start. Adrian is an amazing listener and a great companion who customizes her care to exactly what is needed and more! She doesn't back down from an adventure at all! She is very generous with helpful information and makes herself available for my many questions. For all of us, it was love at first sight with Adrian and we are thankful that she is with us.

Naa

Adrian is an extremely passionate, knowledgeable, supportive, compassionate and just all around wonderful person. She caters her services to the individual need of her clients. You Are Not Alone Eldercare services is a unique and beautiful service for loved ones and their families.

Jackie

As an employee of YANAEC, I have witnessed firsthand the compassion, dedication and commitment that the company has to serving the needs of the elder population. The patience, gentleness and specialized care that is provided by YANAEC's highly-trained and qualified staff, creates an atmosphere of safety, respect and comfort. You will have peace of mind knowing that you or your loved one(s) are in capable and loving hands.

Ramona

I personally know Adrian is passionate about what she does. She has a true gift in the loving care & interaction with her clients. In the event that I need elder care for a loved one I will be sure to call You Are Not Alone Elder Care.

Cheryl

Working for You Are Not Alone Elderly Care is very rewarding. I get to provide genuine care to the elderly. My position allows me to treat them like a loving family member and to care for their needs whether by doing games, activities, light duties, personal care, preparing meals or just being a listening ear to their family stories. What a Great Feeling!! I am able to help the primary care givers to alleviate some of their stress.

Barbara B

The care Adrian gave my father was excellent! She took care of him physically and emotionally. He used to say she’s the best aide he ever had, and she really knows how to give a great bath. Adrian goes above and beyond with the level of care she gives and we are forever grateful!

Barbara L

Adrian is an excellent caregiver! She took care of my father's physical and emotional needs. She is deeply caring and was an excellent communicator with my dad and our family. I am forever grateful for her help and would definitely recommend her to anyone! Adrian is the most caring and responsible caregiver we had for my dad. She was able to handle all of his physical care, and she took time to talk with him each visit. She brightened his day, and we are so grateful for the loving care she gave my dad.

Eva

Adrian is very attentive to my mother who has dementia! She talked, and played board games with her, and asked about family, helping my mother with her memory and encouraging her! She is friendly and kind, and helps my mother with physical help! I give her 5 stars!

Dara

"I recommend Adrian! Knowledgeable and Compassionate.

Dana

She is a very beautiful woman who works as a companion to the elderly, and as an end of life doula: a calling that is truly noble and special. It is said that to hold a loving space for someone at their transition is an honor, a privilege and filled with grace; Adrian considers this to be so. The yogis tell us that the thoughts we hold as we leave our bodies have much to do with the journey beyond; to have someone like Adrian sit beside you or your loved one, taking care of the body and maintaining a loving place in the mind and heart is a gift for both you and them.

Trina

I recommend Adrian. She is compassionate and caring. She is patient and loving. The exact type of person that our elders need to ensure a pleasant experience.

Ursala

Adrian has been a blessing to my family. Today it is not easy to trust others to care for loved ones. However Adrian is a rare jewel. She is consistently dependable, trustworthy and on time. She is very gentle and patient. Her words and actions are always aligned. When she advises she cares for her clients like they are her own family, it is evident in her work. She also ensures her clients enjoy their life no matter what stage they are in. She keeps them active and engaged. Thank you Adrian for your excellent service.

Lynn

Adrian is an angel among us. I became aware of Care.com from a co-worker who had hired a caregiver for her elderly mother. Going through the applicants profiles, Adrian's stood out for two reasons: her kind and smiling face, as well as the proximity to my parents. She has been a blessing from day one. Conscientious, kind, communicative, helpful, authentic, caring, and dedicated are just a few of the adjectives to describe Adrian. After only two weeks, she feels like a beloved family friend. We are grateful and blessed to have her in my parents lives.

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Doulas Are Becoming Part Of The End-Of-Life Equation

Jan 07, 2020

Doulas Are Becoming Part Of The End-Of-Life Equation

According to The New England Journal of Medicine, more people are choosing to die at home rather than in a hospital. It's a trend that's shifting how we think about care at the end of life. NOEL KING, HOST: More and more people are choosing to die in their homes instead of in hospitals. The New England Journal of Medicine reports the number is the highest it's been since the early 1900s. So families are turning to trained caregivers for support. NPR's Hannah Hagemann has the story. HANNAH HAGEMANN, BYLINE: Not everyone is able to choose where they spend their final days. And until 2016, most people died in hospitals. But now home is the most common place of death. There, people are often surrounded by family, caretakers and nurses. But when it comes to actually facing death and openly discussing it, a lot of us are afraid. GARRICK COLEWELL: Keep in mind, we only die once that we're aware of. And it's not something we do like riding a bicycle or getting in the car and driving to work. HAGEMANN: That's Garrick Colewell. His wife, Kensloe Kelley Colewell, battled with stage four melanoma for years. She died in February 2019. Early on in her diagnosis, she made the decision to work with a death doula. It's what it sounds like, but instead of bringing babies into the world, these doulas help people transition out of it. COLEWELL: It allowed her to experience what she was experiencing fully and with less anxiety and less trepidation and less fear. HAGEMANN: Colewell says working with a death doula opens people up to a more spiritual side of death. COLEWELL: And to be present to it and to honor the sacredness of the passing versus just simply saying, well, you know, here's a little bit of morphine, and I'll see you later. SARAH CROSS: Hospitals are designed to treat acute illness. HAGEMANN: That Sarah Cross, a researcher at Duke University. Cross co-authored the new report on dying. CROSS: It has been a really strong, forceful movement by a lot of the leaders in palliative care and hospice wanting to ensure that patients are not receiving care that could be harmful, could prolong their suffering. HAGEMANN: Cross was a social worker in hospice and palliative care for eight years before entering academia. She says the conversations surrounding end-of-life care have changed. For those needing intensive medical care, hospitals and other facilities are important, but... CROSS: In most cases, it's not the most ideal setting for someone whose needs are largely around comfort focus and emotional and spiritual support. HAGEMANN: For Yvette Benjamin, an end-of-life doula, that support is key. YVETTE BENJAMIN: A birth doula is there to be a coach. That's what I see us being also. HAGEMANN: Except they're coaching people on dying. It's a mix of emotional and practical counselling beyond what nurses or hospice workers would normally provide. Benjamin volunteers her services as a death doula; others charge hourly or daily rates. Not everyone can afford it. EDO BANACH: There was nothing crazy about the idea. In fact, it made complete sense. HAGEMANN: That's Edo Banach, Bannock who leads the National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization. BANACH: I see the doula as filling in all those gray areas that sometimes are difficult for a hospice or a community-based palliative program to fill in. HAGEMANN: He says with more people dying at home, there is a growing need for more types of support. BANACH: We have 10,000 people turning 65 every day. The demographics are such that there aren't enough people to care for the folks who need help right now. HAGEMANN: In reality, these choices often come down to a matter of resources. Researcher Sarah Cross is concerned about that. The report she co-authored finds other factors contribute to where and how people die, like race and socioeconomic status. And as death increasingly moves into the home, doulas are just one part of the end-of-life equation. Hannah Hagemann, NPR News. Read more: https://www.npr.org/2020/01/03/793257344/one-way-to-die-hire-an-end-of-life-doula?ft=nprml&f&fbclid=IwAR32tIbuVWCWO7baLCPKwImWSCSgrEIV7ViEUntXP_X5FL0vtYNjIJB9NbE ...

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Essential Oils and Seniors

Dec 20, 2019

Essential Oils and Seniors

When it comes to the later years in life, there can often be things that may never have bothered us before, but become a real issue. Life as you get older presents new challenges, and many of them can have much to do with energy, both physically and mentally. There can be a shift in mindset and an increase in anxiety. Essential oils have long been something that people have chosen to help them to feel calm, energized, and positive in aspects of their lives. This is why I want to explore the major benefits of how essential oils can benefit seniors greatly. First, here’s a little background. What are essential oils? Essential oils are often used in aromatherapy, and have long been seen as an alternative form of medicine that uses plant extracts to support health and well-being. The oils capture the plants essence and enable it to be used in different ways. Essential oils are most commonly used in aromatherapy, where the oils are inhaled through different methods. They can also be applied directly to the skin at certain pulse points, where they can react in different ways to give the user the desired relief or calm they are wanting. Inhaling the essential oils can stimulate areas in the brain that play vital roles in emotions, behaviors, sense of smell and long-term memory. The part of the brain, the limbic system, can also benefit as it has much to do with physical ailments such as breathing, heart rate and blood pressure. What essential oils are popular? There are many different types of essential oils that are available today, and some of the most popular ones you probably have heard of. Many do similar things, but some essential oils can have stronger benefits in different areas of health. Some of the more popular essential oils include: Peppermint - used to help aid digestion and boost energy levels Lavender - used to relieve stress and promote calmness Rose - used to improve mood and help with anxiety Chamomile - used to promote relaxation and sleep Tea Tree - used to fight infections and boost immunity Lemon - used for many things including headaches, boosting mood, and helping with digestion What can essential oils help seniors? When it comes to seniors using essential oils, there are many ways in which they could help improve their health and well-being. Older people generally can feel more anxious, worried and stressed. Essential oils used in aromatherapy, such as Rose, Lavender and Lemon could help to calm a racing heart rate and anxious thoughts. In terms of health benefits, digestion can often be a troubling health area for seniors, and using essential oils could be a way to help alleviate common ailments such as trapped wind or constipation. In conclusion, whether applied to pulse points directly on your skin or inhaled through various aromatherapy options, essential oils can help physically and mentally with your health and well-being. ...

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Crystals and Seniors

Nov 26, 2019

Crystals and Seniors

As we age, health issues become more prevalent. This includes problems with chronic pain and conditions such as arthritis. Aging individuals are constantly searching for new ways to cope with medical conditions and ailments with some discovering the healing power of crystals. Today, there is more information on crystals than ever before, from the different types to the impact that they could have on our health and wellbeing. There are crystals for the home, children and even pets. You may even see crystals in places of business in the hope that they will improve the wellbeing for all people. People have found that crystals can help with a variety of physical conditions. Others use crystals for emotional or physical benefits, and still others believe that the energy they provide offers benefits to the soul. But could crystals be the right choice for seniors? What Do We Mean Be Seniors? ‘Senior’ is a term commonly associated with the eldetly. However, in this instance a senior could be anyone over the age of forty. It’s at this stage that medical conditions which will cause an impact later in life begin to develop. As such, anyone over the age of forty could find fantastic benefits from using the right crystals to promote positive energy forces. What Crystals Are Available? There is a massive list of crystals available that could help seniors suffering from different conditions. For instance, Blue Calcite and Emeralds are believed to help with the general process of aging that causes emotional and mental symptoms. Alternatively, Alexandrite and Amber may have a positive impact on those suffering from Alzheimer’s disease. Apache Tears and Aqua Aura could also be beneficial for those suffering from depression. This is a common condition in the senior population, particularly for those with hearing difficulties. How Do Healing Crystals Help Seniors? Research is constantly exploring the potentially profound benefits of crystals for seniors. However, holding a crystal, placing one on your body or adding them to your home environment can promote emotional, physical and spiritual healing. Crystals are able to achieve this by interacting with the energy field of your body or Chakra. Many people have reported improvements in physical and mental conditions after introducing certain crystals into their daily life. As such, crystals could be an option worth exploring for both seniors and their caretakers. What To Consider? If you are exploring crystals to help with issues of aging, then there are various factors to consider. You need to think about where you are placing your crystal in the home. Ideally, you should select a spot that is a mindful place. Alternatively, you can carry them or wear them on your body in the form of a bracelet or necklace. In doing so, you can ensure that the crystal is in direct contact with your energy field. Ultimately, crystals are part of the study of nature. They may impact our health and our energy to provide fantastic and extraordinary benefits for senior individuals who incorporate them into their daily lifestyle, including for pain relief. ...

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About You Are Not Alone

About Adrian Allotey, Owner, Certified End-of-Life Doula I am currently living my best life by responding to a calling on my life; service to elders and their loved ones. My life’s calling came as a result of being present in my 106 year old, loving grandmother’s journey until her last breath. Although I loved her dearly, I often felt troubled that I couldn’t be there for her like I wanted. Life got in the way; being a wife and mother and having a successful career. She was pretty healthy, but she lacked companionship. I knew there were things that could improve the quality of her life such as long talks, sharing stories, cooked meals, and transportation to the doctors, stores and church. I did my best, but there simply wasn’t enough time in the day to show up like I felt she deserved. Her passing gave my life’s purpose clear; service to elders and their loved ones. I made it my life’s mission to promote the final years as a sacred, beautiful, honorable stage of life. I became a hospice volunteer and a certified end-of-life doula, a person who assists in the dying process, much like a birth doula does with the birthing process. Working with elderly patients has been life affirming so much so that I left a career of 20+ years. Along with my team, we serve as non-medical elderly companions who specialize in physical, emotional and spiritual care. We meet our clients on their terms, see them as whole, and build relationships with them and their loved ones. Our self-care regimen, personal growth and intuition allow us to mindfully hold space and provide comfort for elderly people and their family in a non-judgmental, loving manner. Our motto “heart to heart" is evident in the holistic elder companionship we provide. Holding this space decreases the stress and fears family members face when looking for care for their loved ones; whether they are in need of respite relief, work long hours or live long distance. We can help. Through extensive end-of-life doula training, we are able to provide support, education, and suggestions for comfort. We have a toolkit of available resources to ease the anxious person and their family members including virtual “elder cams,” essential oils, crystals, reiki, mindfulness practices, etc. We are often referred to as “angels”, “Godsends”, “extraordinary”, “beyond belief” and words of the like. Contact us TODAY to see how we can be of assistance to you TOMORROW and we promise to assist in enhancing the life of your loved elder. MEMBERSHIPS National End-of-Life Doula Alliance Doulagivers National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization End of Life Practitioners Collective National Home Funeral Alliance CERTIFICATIONS Doulagivers End of Life Doula Practitioners Training Reiki Level 2 VOLUNTEER EXPERIENCE Ascend Hospice Reiki Practitioner and End of Life Doula Haven Hospice Reiki Practitioner


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